Self awareness is an understanding into our own world, defining how we react to certain situations and how we read into different things. Those who are not self aware tend to be completely oblivious to what is going on internally which can result in insecure and defensive traits which leave them unable to take responsibility for their own issues.
The levels of self awareness we all experience can exist on differing levels, with some people being deeply tuned into their internal worlds, and others much less so, but still being able to take accountability for their own responses. When it comes to relationships, not even just the romantic kind, having a good sense of what is happening both emotionally and cognitively can make it much easier to identify issues that have come up. Disagreements come in all forms, ranging from simple differing opinions such as not agreeing on dinner or choosing when to use chastity belts, but bigger disagreements on long term issues can be a deal breaker if they are not addressed from both parties.
In order to become more self aware in your relationship, here are some handy tips to try out:
Write it down
Journaling is an easy and relaxing way to get all of those overwhelming thoughts out on paper and reflect on what is happening. Just like therapy, it raises our self awareness when we are given the chance to talk things through and you can then go back and read back over what you’ve written, using it as an opportunity to reflect on your progress and whether you reacted appropriately to a past situation. Automatic and unconscious behaviours are not always noticed in our day to day lives, so getting into the habit of daily journaling can really be the tool you need to analyse your own actions.
Take a step back
Mindfulness and meditation are both great for developing self awareness, giving you the time you need to completely switch off and focus on what’s going on inside. Many people see improvements in their relationships when they practice mindfulness as they are more aware of what is happening for them internally, giving them the ability to choose how they react instead of making short and snappy decisions. Mindfulness encourages us to notice how emotions feel in our bodies, allowing us to be much more receptive to the physical emotions such as a tightness in our chests, clenching in our stomach, or a tightening of our jaw.
Speak to the experts
Relationship coaching and individual coaching act in the same way as therapists, asking the questions that prompt you to dig deep and reflect on yourself. Often being based around your values and goals in life, you are likely to come out feeling more mindful than before, finding a new level of motivation and drive like never before. When it comes to relationships, the process is great for raising awareness of how your day to day actions impact your partner and vice versa, helping you connect on new levels.
